Before we start... Strong & Musky Or Sweet & Fresh. Each person has their preference. Some prefer the strong musky flavours and aromas, while for a lot of people this is the biggest thing that holds them back from going down on a partner. As with everything else in sex communication is the key to avoiding any embarrassment. Taking a shared bath or shower before can be great foreplay for oral sex.

Don't go straight for the clit - even cunnilingus needs foreplay. Start with some gentle kissing and massage, kiss the body all over paying particular attention to the erogenous zones. Move to the inner thighs kissing up and down from the knees to the top of the thighs, just brushing the lips with your mouth as you move between thighs.

Kiss, lick and suck everything. Gently use your tongue to massage the labia and clit and slip your tongue inside. This will drive your partner wild. Remember communication is the key here. There is no point lapping away for hours if your partner is not enjoying it. Be slow don't rush at this stage you want to slowly build up your partner. The only way to find out what your partner enjoys is to explore her.

Once your partners starting to juice up you can start to work on her clit. As we know a lot of guys have no idea where the clit is, so ask your partner. Each woman is different in the way she likes to be simulated some woman are to sensitive to have direct clitoris contact. Each woman is slightly different in how she wants to be stimulated, so tell her to give you guidance as your explore her nether regions.

Most men keep their tongue taunt during cunnilingus this is good for penetration but for clit stimulation this can be too much. relax your tongue and use the blade instead of the tip on your partners clit. You can also try holding a vibrator against the underside of your tongue or one f the variety of vibrating oral sex aids available from Online Sex Shops.

Don't be afraid to use your hands. Some light finger fucking, stimulating the g spot and the clit at the same time can lead to some intense orgasms. Also holding the clit gently between the thumb and forefinger rotating your fingers up and down while brushing your tongue left to right across it. Again this comes down to your partners personal preference. Also some anal stimulation can be good but ask first. (Remember to use lube and never move your finger from anus to vagina.)

As every woman is different what worked on a previous partner is not always going to work on your current partner. Don't be afraid to try new thing and don't be in a rush to the finish line. Try spelling the alphabet on your partners clit with your tongue, Long slow circular strokes or faster diagonal strokes. You can try holding her labia in your mouth and gently humming while flick the clit with your tongue.

Be Patient

Just because you don't make your partner cum in 5 mins it doesn't mean your bad at oral sex each woman has her own speed. At the same time look like your enjoying yourself, this applies to both partners. No one wants to be fighting a losing battle, there is no quicker way to kill the mood than to see your partner not getting into it. If your not enjoying it talk to your partner give them some guidance.

Once you have gotten your partner excited and found her hot spots, it time to get down to some action. Flick your tongue with a steady rhythm. The trick is not to change the rhythm and movement, keep a steady pace going and you will bring your partner to orgasm.

Unlike men once a woman has cum she can cum again and again, so whatever you do don't stop now. Your partner will now be on a orgasmic plateau leaving her more susceptible to cum again and again. Some women will find it too intense to have their clit stimulated straight away so you might want to gently tease her lips and entrance with your tongue working back to her clit. Doing this you can keep your partner cumming all night long.

You can find a selection of cunnilingus position in our Oral Sexual Position Guide.